Bert Scholl, CTACC
I've had cancer twice. With each diagnosis, I reached points where I didn't know how I was going to go any further. I quickly learned to be very honest with myself—honest about the things I thought and felt about family, about friends, about my future—during what sometimes seemed like endless rounds of debilitating treatments. And to get through it all, there were times when I delved into the depths of my soul, searching for courage and strength. It often felt like I needed to be super-human.
Once treatment was complete and I returned to the normal day-to-day activities of the outside world, I began to experience frustration with what I thought was people's blindness to their own lives. I would think, "Do they have any idea how lucky they are?!?" Then I realized it wasn't them who needed a change in perspective. It was me. I was more aware of my life and my surrounding circumstances than I ever had been. I was more aware of what truly mattered to me. Not always clear about how to make it happen, but no longer uncertain about my values. No longer uncertain about who I was. And it quickly became clear to me that I could not continue to live the way I previously had. I wasn't the same person anymore. I had found a side of myself I didn't know existed. Strength and courage I didn't know I had. And I began to notice the yearning in myself to live as powerfully as I had while I had cancer. And each day I didn't, I felt as though this newly discovered part of me was suffocating.
So I coach people like me. Folks who insist on keeping that part of themselves alive. Because it's not always obvious in what arena these newly-found strengths and different forms of courage can be expressed. But each one of us has our own unique commitments & values, personal desires & interests. Sometimes known, sometimes hidden from our view. But once we find them and realize how they can be expressed, and that we can continue to live powerfully like we did with cancer, we fully come alive, living full and passionate lives. And no longer just surviving.
As a Cancer Survivorship Coach, my coaching style consists of:
Through the use of these techniques, my clients are able to take on an objective view of their conversation, which untangles the thoughts—like the untangling of wires—from an indistinguishable mass of thoughts into a distinct and clear set of separate thoughts. At this point, the client becomes clear about what really matters and what necessary actions there are to take.
Honestly, I've never been a big fan of the word survivor when applied to those who have beaten cancer. I have a few friends who I lost to cancer. But throughout their diagnoses they were 100% survivors. They lived their lives fully and passionately, grateful for life, and with a kindness and generosity that was continuous throughout their remaining years. These folks survived their diagnoses from start to finish. They are no longer alive but they are some of the most powerful survivors I have ever had the privilege of knowing.
That being said, Survivor is the term that is used to refer to people who are cancer-free. And, as conflicted as I find myself with the word Survivorship, it is the term used for people who are post-treatment and cancer-free and Survivorship is a unique part of the journey.
In March of 2007, five months after the birth of my youngest son, I was diagnosed with Stage II Rectal Cancer. I lived cancer-free for almost three years. In 2011, I was diagnosed a second time; this time with Stage IV Rectal Cancer, metastasized to the liver. So I am well versed in the emotional pain and anguish that accompanies a cancer diagnosis, the treatments and navigating the unexpected difficulties that enter into the cancer patient's personal and work relationships. As the recipient of Life Coaching throughout both of his diagnoses, I was able to continually maintain high spirits and a healthy lifestyle.
I have been an active Coach since 2001. In 2010, once cancer-free from my first diagnosis, I knew my work was to coach people navigating a cancer diagnosis. That year I became a Certified Life Coach with Coach Training Alliance (an accredited Life Coaching School) and have been Life Coaching ever since.
Read about the results my clients and their family
members have gotten out of working with me.
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"Bert Scholl is incredibly talented as a coach and guide. His style is genuine, focused, and intuitive, and our conversations always led me to new, sometimes deeply healing emotional territory, and helped me to clarify goals and desires. He has the utmost respect and compassion for his clients, and I always felt safe being completely open when expressing myself. Months later, I remain grateful for and inspired by his insights."
“I contacted Bert during a time of unemployment when my options felt limited and my life was feeling stagnant. His coaching sessions helped me gain clarity on how to be open to new opportunities in my career
goals and personal relationships. His practicality helped me to acknowledge and redirect anxiety and fear of change into excitement and passion for new possibilities. In less than two months I went from feeling stuck and unmotivated, to possessing a plan for a new career direction. And relationships developed that allowed me to work freely and passionately in a career field I would have otherwise abandoned altogether. His coaching will motivate you and get your life moving!”
“Bert was extremely helpful in facilitating discussions with my mother regarding her finances – something which has always been an emotional and difficult topic for us to speak about in the past. I was impressed by his ability to identify the emotional associations that we had developed surrounding this topic. By identifying these associations and addressing them, he allowed us to move forward and discuss the topic at
hand, rather than fall back into old, ineffective communication habits. I feel he is an extraordinary mediator and coach and recommend him to anyone who is having difficulty communicating with someone important in their lives.”
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